When you're in your 20s or 30s and not a parent, there's no difference between a baby who is 1 or 2. Or a 6 month old and a 11-month-old.
Now that I'm up to my elbows in dirty diapers, though, I can spot an advanced 11-month-old taking unsteady steps or a 19-month-old swiping a pacifier from a 13-month-old. There is a world of difference between 1 and 2.
In bridge, there are also differences between certain hands, even if they are superficially the same.
Let's look at two hands and then apply this concept. Two hands with 8 points in the form of an ace, a king, and a jack each:
Hand A

AJ109

K1098

2

10987
Hand B

7654

J32

K53

A43
Are they worth the same amount? Hand A is vastly superior. Look at all those 10s and 9s, not to mention extra distribution. That singleton diamond isn't necessarily good for us if partner has length in diamonds, but it could potentially be worth a lot if partner has hearts or spades. Hand B doesn't have that type of potential. Even if partner has spades, this hand doesn't provide any ruffing values. Where does this knowledge leave us?
We are South. What is your plan with Hand A and Hand B on this auction:
West | North | East | South |
---|
| 1NT | Pass | ? |
Hand A should start with Stayman. If North responds with 2
or 2
, South should jump to game. Over a 2
response, I might bid 3NT rather than 2NT (and would definitely do it at IMP scoring). Even without a fit in the major, your partner might be able to take some extra tricks in more than one of your three suits.
Hand B, on the other hand, is junk. Garbage. Trash. A dirty diaper of an 8-count. This hand should pass. While there are some magical layouts between the opening bidder and the opponents that might allow 9 tricks to make, you shouldn't stretch to game when you need so much help from the bridge gods.
If you do choose to invite with 4-3-3-3 hands better than hand B, like:

xxxx

xxx

AJ10

K109,
you should not use Stayman.
Conventional response to notrump to ask about majors Stayman may identify an 8-card fit, but this hand isn't any better in a suit contract than notrump. You may regret finding a fit if partner has poor trumps or a similarly shapeless hand.
When evaluating your hand opposite a 1NT opening, there the point difference between 8, 9, or 10 points isn't as useful as the characteristics of the hand. Using judgment is key to becoming a better bidder. Here are a few 8-count problems to test your bidding out on.
None vul. Matchpoints. Partner opens 1NT. What is your plan?
1)

J43

KJ102

Q92

J32
2)

AJ10

K1098

1082

963
3)

A

--

A32

1098765432
4)

J94

Q984

K7632

Q
5)

92

92

874

AKJ1094
Answers.
1) Pass. Too many Quacks (Queens and Jacks) to invite game.
2) 2NT. This time, your values look good. AJ10 is a nice holding, but we don't use
Conventional response to notrump to ask about majors Stayman with 4333 shape.
3) 6

! That's not a typo. You have controls and a 9-card holding in clubs (with partner holding at least two). Even if you are missing the AK of clubs, you might have one loser if the suit splits 1-1.
4) 2

and then pass. You might invite opposite a 2

response, but I would be happy to improve the contract. 2

and 2

are likely to be better scoring spots than 1NT.
5) 3NT. You might be able to take 6 tricks in your hand. Partner is supposed to provide the rest.